Sex and Apprenticeship

This question has come up before and I have been asked to share my thoughts on it, so I want to lay this out as clearly and concisely as possible. First, I give you the words of my own teacher on this:

"The Apprenticeship process is a very strict arrangement with little room for sexual intercourse between Teachers and Apprentices. Working as an Adawehas, a Daka and Sacred Prostitute is definitely a part of who and what I am, and a part of what I teach, and the healing and empowerment process of a Mahakali Priestess is often extremely sexual in nature, but I have little tolerance for sexual intercourse in the Teacher/student relationship with the reasons given below.

If I am training someone in Mahakali Tantra, or taking someone through the fifth through thirteenth sessions of the Tantric Sexual Healing and Empowerment Process then she may choose to engage in sexual intercourse with me, and it will be on so fast, simply by her physical actions, that I will have little to say about the situation, but in most all other situations then I simply refuse. It is my right, and I choose to exercise it in that way. I have sat in Yab-Yum with some of the most beautiful women on this planet, and yet we have not engaged in sexual intercourse. It is my right not to do so, and it is also theirs! As you will read about shortly, those of us who do this work have a serious “no tolerance” attitude for certain kinds of sexual misbehavior.

The purpose of training people in shamanic forms of Tantra and Cherokee and Kali Naga Shamanism is to empower them to be free and to help them find the way within them to do the same for others. As far as I am concerned, Teachers who force their students to have sex with them are guilty of the worst form of rape, and should be treated accordingly as they have held the student’s spiritual growth and development hostage and coerced the student to have sex with them in an un-natural way. No human has yet invented a punishment worthy of what this sort of Teacher deserves, but we have done the best that we can.

Any Apprentice of mine will receive the Yab-Yum Empowerment, and will know how to use sex to further their psychic and spiritual capabilities as well as for healing of many things on many levels. I only engage in that sort of activity with Apprentices on an emergency basis and at their request, and have often sent them on to work with other Teachers afterward rather than continuing with me as it is something only to be engaged in regularly with spiritual equals.

When Teachers and Apprentices become lovers then the Teacher/Student relationship is violated so that it becomes difficult for the Teacher to correct his or her lover as a student which violates the purpose for which they are together. And, the student or Apprentice becomes more interested in pleasing the Teacher physically rather than by means of gaining greater spiritual growth and power. Teachers who don’t control themselves with their students wind up alone with no one to teach for about seven lifetimes as the Spirits and the Goddess take a rather dim view of such activities as well."

Now, for my own views: I take an even stricter stance on this than my teacher. For one thing, I do not teach the same tantric sexual healing and empowerment process, so that stage is not considered. And, any tantric apprentices I have are given things they can work with on their own or with a partner, but not with me. Furthermore, even at the request of my students, I would not engage in sexual intercourse with them, and would instead recommend them to the Order of the Lotus Flower to find a suitable partner (and probably end the apprenticeship because I would rather not have to deal with that again.)

As a married man, in a monogamous committed relationship, I do not engage in sexual intercourse with anyone other than my wife. Any student who requests this shows a lack of respect for my marriage as well as my role as teacher. And, were I to tell my student that they had to do this, I would face the wrath of the goddess, but worse, the wrath of my wife. So, while apprenticeship teaches about sexuality and calls upon sexual energy, the master/student relationship is sacred and inviolable. This goes for all positions of power, including that of professional/client, anyone in power who uses sexuality as a weapon against their subordinates is guilty of one of the worst crimes imaginable.

So, the bottom line is, yes, this is an apprenticeship that deals in the nature of sacred sexuality and sexual healing and empowerment, but between master and apprentice, there is no sexual intercourse. Would I advise my students in ways to use these teachings to improve their sex lives? Absolutely. Would I help them as much as I could within these bounds? Certainly. Would I advise my clients and teach them methods they could use? Of course. But would I engage in intercourse with a client or student? Never.